Sunny Montgomery: Compulsive Diary Writer

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Saraya Brewer

September 12, 1996: Guess what!! Justin Jones asked for my number today. I pretended not to hear him. Today was a SELF CONFIDENCE DAY. HIP HIP HOORAY!

September 17, 1996: Today in school I felt ugly and mean. So here is my plan: 

Beauty’s rule: Leave my hair how I know it looks good, wear funky (cool, in style) clothes, put on jewelry, BELIEVE IN MYSELF.

Niceness rule: Put myself in that person’s shoes, think ‘would God allow this in heaven?,’ BELIEVE IN MYSELF.

It may seem like a chronicle from a Judy Blume novel, but the above excerpts are actual entries from Lexington writer Sunny Montgomery’s diary as a 12-year-old girl. After rereading them recently, she was struck not only with the humor of her entries, but also by the general lack of confidence that she suffered from as an adolescent. Upon posting some excerpts from the diary on her Facebook page a couple months ago, she was struck again by the response she got – friends started responding with excerpts from their own diaries that echoed many of the sentiments from Montgomery’s own journals.

“For some reason, I didn’t realize how many women still keep their childhood diaries. I would make a post about anticipating junior high and some other girl would comment on it and write a passage from hers,” Montgomery recalled. “Personal diaries are obviously so interesting … What’s been interesting to me is there’s a part of me that looks back on that girl and feels sad for her, but there’s a part of me that still relates to so many of those insecurities to this day.”

The response that Montgomery received from the entries she posted online – as well as her own personal reflection of the ups and downs that women young and old face regarding confidence and self-esteem – has prompted her to start a new diary sharing project, which she calls “The Dear Diary Project” ( Montgomery is soliciting honest diary entries from women all over the world with plans to compile them into a published book.

“I guess the point is to kind of realize that we all go through this. When I was 12 years old and having all these horrible self-esteem issues, I was certain I was the only person,” she said. “I’m not going to pretend this project is the cure to self-esteem issues, but I do think that it could raise awareness that this is what girls do to their selves. I hope that if everybody could kind of be in that together, that could be a step to thinking about things differently and not perpetuating.”

Sunny recently took some time to answer a few questions about the project and how people can get involved.

Does your journaling ever inform the pieces you write that are geared toward a public audience?

Absolutely, my past journaling has influenced my writing. As a child when I was journaling every daily, I wrote down everything from my darkest secrets (which included things like, “Today I was acting totally perverted. I put on a bra and danced around my room.”) to what TV shows I’d watched that day. I didn’t dismiss any part of my life as not-important-enough to document, and over time I learned to see significance in all the small details. That’s definitely reflected in my writing, as most of my stories are about seemingly small events: a conversation I had with a co-worker or the time my mother caught my sister and I gluing ants to the pavement.

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